It is a fact, that if you are married, you will have problems to overcome. If the problems are serious, you both will need to work together to save the marriage.
To convince your spouse to save the marriage:
Accept responsibility None of us are perfect! As the old adage says, “To err is to be human.” Acknowledging and accepting responsibility for the mistakes you made in your marriage can help resolve conflicts and hurt feelings. It shows your spouse that you realize that you contribute to the problems in your marriage.
Talk and Listen: Let your wife or husband know how you feel by talking things out. Use “I” statements. Don’t say, “You hurt me.” Instead say, I felt hurt.” Try to avoid saying “You” in an accusing way. Take the time to listen to your spouse. Let them tell you their concerns and how they feel. Be willing to listen to a different persceptive about your marriage. Talking and listening to each other can create an atmosphere for the two of you to work things out so that you can save your marriage.
Seek Advice/Counseling:If you are a person of faith, you can seek the advice of your pastor. Ask that prayer be offered for the reconciliation between you and your spouse. If you prefer a secular approach to solving your marriage problem, you can seek out the advice of a professional that specialize in marriage and family counseling. Approach the subject of counseling with sensitivity. Understand that your husband may unwilling to even consider counseling. He may feel pressured by you and think you are blaming the problems in your marriage on him. Don’t stoop to any form of manipulation by pleading with him. Don’t threaten to harm yourself, if he refuse to agree to attend counseling with you.
Look after yourself: Get the proper amount of rest to look and feel your best. Even though you are going through a difficult period in your marriage, don’t neglect to take good care of your health. Make sure you perform your everyday responsibilities. If it necessary, get someone to help you with the issues you may be struggling to overcome.
Give it Time: Even though your efforts are not showing a positive result at first in convincing your spouse to save the marriage, don’t loose hope. They just may need time to realize your commitment to the marriage and that it is worth saving. If the end result is that your spouse decides to continue the marriage, having had the patience to see things through, will make the wait worthwhile.
