Have you notice a change in your marriage? What was once a hot and heavy relationship between you, now barely flickers. Over time the relationship you share may take on a lackluster existence. The flames of passion are no longer stirred. After years of being married, living together can become a mundane, where you perform daily routines that shape your life. To prevent this from happening, you must prioritize and set aside time to rekindle and ignite the flame of passion again. It requires effort, a commitment to each other to maintain the marriage.Here are 5 suggestions to help you discover ways to rekindle the fire and spark the passion in your marriage to save it.

1. Keep the romance In Your Relationship!

Candlelight dinners, walks along the beach, listening to music. It doesn’t have to consume a lot of your time for you to get those precious moments together. It can be something as simple as sitting on a bench in the park watching the sunset. Or huddle up together on the couch looking at your favorite movie videos. Find what works for the two of you by using your own imagination in creating romance.

2. Add Some Spontaneity.

Most of us have that little kid inside that likes surprises. That spontaneity, when you are invited to a trendy new restaurant with jamming music and delectable food. Think how your partner would feel to be surprise by you with something special. You can send some flowers or a text message expressing sentiments of affection. Spontaneity is what adds a spark to an otherwise monotonous day. It creates those moments that makes life pleasurable and results in keeping a fire inside of you burning.

3. Take Time to Talk

This is such a simple thing to do. Yet, often couples fail to spend time just listening to each other. Not listening to your partner can result in a disconnect to each other emotionally. Everyone gets tired due to work, the demands of your time, and just the every day stresses of life. It’s important to listen, to hear what you need and want from each other.

4. Be Enthusiastic!

Remember how you waited with anticipation to see that special someone. You showed interest in what they said and did. There was an excitement that made them feel loved and important to you. This was the reason why you married them. Recapturing those feelings for each other again will light a fire that can save your marriage.

5. Do Something Different, Adventurous!

Take that cooking class together. Try an outdoor activity. It doesn’t matter what you do, the key is to try something that takes you out of the comfort zone you have grown accustomed to. It gives you both a chance to experience something new that recaptures those special feelings of closeness to each other again, like when you first fell in love. You can set aside a night to read romantic passages from a book or write your own. The two of you can prepare some portions of food that you both enjoy while listening to your favorite music. All it take is your time, imagination and creativity to rekindle the fire in your marriage and save it.

Have you and your wife recently split up? Do you think this is a major error and will do what ever it takes to get your ex wife back in your arms?

A friend of mine was in a similar situation, and he didn’t know what to do. He turned to me and I helped him devise a small, simple but effective plan.

Needless to say, he is 3 months on and has been back with his wife for 2 of those months. As far as he is concerned there is nothing better to get your ex wife back than simplicity!

So what did he know?

What are the secrets behind getting an ex back?

1. Simplicity is definitely the key here, so don’t go overboard when trying to get an ex back. You need to remember that they do love you so attempts to go overboard are likely to look extremely desperate.
2. Explain to them how you feel about them, that you love them and want nothing else but to spend your life with them. This is where it might get difficult.
3. You need to be able to cut off from them completely. Explain to them that it is too hard to see them out and about and you need to try and move on – without them – this puts them in an awkward position.
4. After 7-10 days arrange meet up, but ensure you have all the good and bad things ready to talk about and a plan of action if you were to get back together.

Warning: Getting an ex back isn’t easy, it just takes commitment – don’t expect results overnight.

Intimacy is revealing private things about yourself to someone, things that you keep close to your heart. It lays bare the innermost part of who you are to someone that you love and trust. It places you in a vulnerable position where someone can take advantage of you and cause you great pain. For this reason, some people shy away from intimacy. They have a fear of it.

Fear of intimacy can also be a result of how you were raised. If you were brought up with stereotypical gender roles of women and men, you may have preconceived ideas on how you should act as the male or female. This may inhibit you, resulting in an inability to express how you feel emotionally and physically to your partner. To overcome a fear of intimacy, you will need to look closely at your relationship, to determine where you are having difficulties, and what you can do about it.

Here are some things to consider:

1. Comfort Level

Discover what triggers a favorable reaction in you when you are with your partner. It could be holding hands. It may be sitting and talking to each other about significant or insignificant things. The key is to start with what feels comfortable to you. Being aware of this, will enable you to create intimacy on a deeper level.

2. Society and Culture

Do not underestimate the role that society and culture has played in influencing and contributing to your “fear of intimacy.”  Stereotypes of male and female roles cause barriers to intimacy. They stifle and restrict what is acceptable for men and women. Often these factors are so embedded in someone’s thinking that they block their ability for genuine intimacy with a partner. This can be overcome by approaching your relationship in a non-judgemental and non-critical way. You have to determine if you want your relationship defined by these stereotypical roles. You must decide if clinging to these cultural beliefs are impeding your intimacy. And if they are, you must determine whether it is important to you to make a change to have greater intimacy with your partner . In some cultures, men are not suppose to show vulnerability. And women are suppose to be submissive. They are made to feel unfeminine if they express assertiveness and ambition. These types of cultural and social beliefs can pose a barrier to intimacy.

3. Role Models

It will certainly have a negative affect on your relationship to have your partner comparing how you do something with the way their mother did it. Trying to fulfill some expectation passed down from a family role model can strain a relationship. If you buy into other people ideas about how to conduct your marriage, it may keep you from obtaining the intimacy you longed for from your partner. You must approach your relationship on your terms, and do what you think is right for you.  To “overcome a fear of intimacy,” social and cultural beliefs that have determine the roles of men and women  must be challenged by you and not taken as a road map to your marriage or relationship. You can look to resources like save your relationship, which offers practical solutions to intimacy problems and provides answers to other relationship issues.