In the beginning there’s the toothy smile, the gleam in the eyes, that nervous energy you try to hide, not wanting anyone to see the vulnerability  you feel. It’s called love.  Even the biggest cynics, and those with commitment phobia, somewhere buried in their mind is a clinging hope for an everlasting love with a partner. Remember the forever kind of love requires effort, a commitment. That is, if you want the passionate kind of love, where the sparks continue to burn. I’ve written a few ways to help this become a reality.

Keep Romance Alive

Explore ways to keep the romance in your relationship. Candlelight dinners, walks along the beach, reading poetry to each other, listening to music together, these things can stroke the flame of passion. The key is to discover what works for you. Use your imagination and creativity for romance with your partner. It doesn’t have to consume a lot of time, to get those precious moments together. Doing something that has special
meaning to both of you is really what matters.

Open Up, Express Your Feelings

No one wants to strain their brain trying to figure out what’s on your mind. You must have uninhibited communication to assure a strong relationship. Keeping thoughts and feelings inside, makes it impossible to have true intimacy.  It’s like there’s a wall around you, a part of yourself that you’re not sharing. Loving someone means being able to express yourself on the deepest of level. If you are unable to, perhaps your partner hasn’t made you feel loved enough where you can let yourself be vulnerable to them. You will need
to talk through this with your partner, and really have them listen to you. You must be able to open-up and express your feelings. If you’re not able to, it leaves the other person deprived emotionally and cut off from a part of you.

Add Some Surprise

Most people still have that little kid in them, that enjoy surprises. That spontaneity, when suddenly you’re invited to a trendy club, a restaurant with delectable food, receive some flowers, or an e-card expressing sentments of affection. This is what adds a spark to an otherwise dull monotonous day. Surprise and spontaneity creates those special moments for your relationship that makes life pleasurable.  And of course, it shouldn’t be distruptive.  Take the time to do something out of the ordinary. It can make your partner’s day extraordinary!

Enthusiasm

Everyone gets tired due to work schedule, the demands on their time and just the everyday stresses of life.  But you must take time out to talk and listen to your partner. Keep the enthusiasm for each other. If it’s lost, that’s a way for the passion to fizzle and the sparks to dwindle. You’re left with only a memory of the excitement you once felt for each other. Don’t let this happen to you.

Written by Beverly Street