Divorce: How Can You Avoid It?
The primary reason for divorce is marriage. As ridiculous as this sounds, it’s true. And despite this
fact, another truth is, people will continue to get married, which makes divorce a reality.
Some think living together can help them work out problems, letting them get to know each other
first, before marrying. But statistics and studies show that co-habitation does not result in a successful marriage. In fact, couples that live together get divorce much more often then those who simply just married.
Then there are those who feel because they witness the divorce of their parents, that they have first hand knowledge of what to avoid. Since they have experienced the heartache, seeing their parents fall out of love and getting a divorce, they are convince this will not happen to them.
True, there are things you can learn from others. But, you cannot insulate yourself from divorce based on knowledge alone about the failure of someone else’s marriage.
Studies reveal that couples who parents divorced, come out on two different sides of this issue. Some develop an intolerance for marriage. They see it as something to avoid. While others enter marriage expecting it not to last. Therefore they see divorce as inevitable. They may divorce again and again, looking for that perfect marriage.
What causes the dissolution of a marriage is as varied as the couples involved in this complicated relationship. Since the beginning of time experts have been trying to figure out what keeps married couples together.
The one thing that marriage counselors and other specialist agree on is that communication has to be the foundation of this relationship to avoid being divorced. And there needs to be an unwavering commitment to your marriage.
Married couples who talk, and even argue, have a better chance of not getting a divorce. But failure to work through things, may result in the marriage ending. At the very least, the marriage will not be satisfying nor fulfilling.
Decide what you can accept in your marriage. For some, infidelity is a marriage breaker. Others, it is any form of abuse: alcohol, drugs, physical, controling behavior, etc.
As stated before, marriage is a complicated relationship. What makes it so, is the people involved. The reasons for divorce is as varied as the individuals in marriage. Couples break up for any number of reasons, for selfishness, to sex and money, to cultural differences, immaturity, refusal to help with household chores, to different approaches to rearing children, etc.
Marriage can last, even in modern and non-traditional times, but it takes two people with an unwavering love and commitment to each other, and a willingness to communicate about anything and everything.
