Marriage-Just A Contract?
Marriage- Just A Contract?
After a year or two of living together, for many people their feelings toward marriage change. The instant gratification fades as the reality of what marriage represent comes into view. It isn’t the cinderella story where Prince Charming comes to rescue you. Nor is it the self-serving biblical interpretation that many men cling to, that wives are to cook, clean, takes on all the responsibility of running the house, caring for the children, satisfy their physical needs and hold down a job. Only in the fantasy of someone’s mind, can a woman perform all those things.
Historically, marriage bought two people together to exchange vows before God, family, and friends. It was entered into with some trepidation and an awareness of the sacred and contractual obligation you were agreeing to as a couple. And most importantly, it was seen as a lasting commitment to each other. Today many still follow the traditions of the past, at least ceremonially. They stand before the minister, gazing into each other eyes, uttering their vows with heartfelt sentiment. Yet, there’s a sense that what’s being said at that moment, doesn’t have the lasting meaning it used to. In time all that will be left are memories on a dvd and photograhp pictures of this special day. For many, the contract entered into before God, family , and friends on this day will no longer have any significant meaning to them. The marriage that many enter into today is centered around their individual wants and needs. It has a more “Me” then “Us” mindset. For some marriage is a tax shelter; it’s a way out of mexico. It’s financial security. It’s freedom from their parents!
The sacredness that marriage once held has been tarnished by the me attitude, which is permeated throughout the American culture. It is reflected in the permissiveness that easily accepts today’s lower standard of marriage.The value of the marriage contract sealed with vows inside a church before God is not regarded with the same significant it once held in our culture. Trying to find someone today that’s committed to marriage is very difficult. For many it seems easier to nullify the marriage contract, move on to someone new. Except what they’re tossing aside is their commitment, the heartfelt words of love and core convictions that formed the basis of their marriage.
Now going forward to another relationship, in the minds of some, there’s uncertainty and lingering doubts. Some question if they can ever commit to marrying someone again. They join that mindset that thinks relationships don’t last, and neither does marriage. So they are content to co-habitate, to seek all the benefits of marriage without being married. They like idea of acting married. It’s actually being married which involves a contract of their commitment to someone is what they cannot commit to. Yet, millions have a lasting marriage. For them marriage is more than a paper contract. It represents their vows before God, the heartfelt expression of love for their husband or wife, most importantly it is the lasting commitment they gave to another on that special day.
submitted by mrmarriagesaver.com
