Mr. Marriage Saver

Marriage is the biggest commitment people make in this world. Despite this, many marriages fail.  There are some that succeed. Those couples who celebrate many anniversaries are not extra-ordinary people. They simply understand some basic things about marriage. The willingness to cooperate and compromise in your marriage, are two key elements to happiness.

My parents had a successful marriage of forty years until death snatched my father. When I asked my mother what the recipe for a happy marriage was here are the keys to marriage success that she gave me:

* Don’t enter the marriage with an assumption that it is going to be like the movies or the novels that you read. Real couples are not always going gaga over each other. Romance and passion do dwindle over  time. Take a realistic view and think of it as a learning experience which may throw you a challenge now and then.

* It is natural for couples to fight; in fact some of them are necessary to keep the marriage alive!  It adds a spark to the monotony of everyday living. But couples should try to avoid hurting each other with unjustified barbs and taunting cutting words. Angry words can shatters a partner self-esteem if taken too far. You have to argue in a positive way.

Physical abuse should never be tolerated. Fighting clean is a technique many successful couples learn as they age and even couples therapy session focus on it as a way to get the spouses to speak freely about what is bothering them.  Some use this as a prelude to make-up sex and deeper intimacy.

* Both spouses have to be willing to make sacrifices to make their marriage work. The scenario where one partner makes all the sacrifices, often leads to an unhappy marriage. Partners must share responsibilities in their marriage. This will strengthen the relationship and promote mutual understanding and love between them, resulting in a happy marriage.

* Having respect for each other is important to the success of the marriage.  A wife  and husband  must respect each other, even when there’s a disagreement oven an issue.

* Physical intimacy is a major factor in establishing a happy marriage. As time goes by it may become a non-issue for some.  It may be hard to believe, but there are married couples in love that do not have sex  with each other.  Yet they live to a ripe old age, enjoying their time together in what many would consider a sexless marriage. They have learned to enjoy other aspects of their lives together, which gives them happiness and fulfillment.

* Even though love is the glue that holds a marriage together, money is necessary  to build  security and to establish stability for a family. The traditional roles of a husband being the primary earner and financial supporter of the family  is no longer the rule in many marriages. The wife rearing the children is no longer the only responsibility that she has in marriage.  The wife and the husband are both expected to contribute financial support to the family.  It is imperative that couples share the responsibility and be prudent in their spending to have a successful marriage.

* “Don’t neglect to spend enough time with your partner. It produces a strong relationship between husband and wife. Becoming engrossed in your career and preoccupied with other things may cause serious problems for you.  In time you will discover that the two of you have grown indifferent and lack the closeness to each other you once felt.

Never Forget! Make sure you always let  partner knows that they are most important  to you in life.  It is the fundamental key to a successful marriage.

submitted by: www.mrmarriagesaver.com

written by: Beverly

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